Who is the one to blame when your man leaves you? Now don’t get all Angela Basset on me now from Waiting to Exhale. Don’t blame it on the white girl or any girl that you don’t know. You have to understand that these women do not owe you anything so they are going to come at your man FULL FORCE especially if he’s a good catch. The question is, what are you going to do to stop it besides resulting to physical violence?
Fixing a rough patch in a relationship doesn’t start with blame, it starts with fixing home. When there’s a leak, you have to find the hole. Well now ask your man, WHERE’S THAT GOD DAMN HOLE? (lol, that sounded like hoe didn’t it).
But for real, leave “The Bitch” out of it and ask your man questions like, What am I not doing right? Or, What can I do to make you happy? Then tell me if you start to see him staying home more after the reparations have begun. I believe that all women should fight HARD to keep their man because I’m sure you probably invested a lot of time and energy into that relationship. When shit like this happens, you just have to learn how to stick in there when it gets hot.
Now if he’s still out on the streets after you’ve done everything you could to make him happy, then maybe he wasn’t yours to begin with. Also, there are men that feel guilty about cheating and then there are men that have no conscious whatsoever doing what they do. My advice is that if he wants to be out there, LET HIM GO and go and get your groove on (another Angela joke, lol). We need to stop holding on to men that don’t want to stay. Let him have the Bitch! Keep your pride and maybe pop a couple of tires while you at the door if that makes you feel better ;-)
Mimi Loubeau
Ps. Or maybe burn that sucka down (depending on how severe the case)
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I was in the same situation where i was with a guy and i did everything to keep the relationship going and i know he was happy too cause he would always show me and tell me how much he appreciate me but then i just came to a conclusion that no matter how good i was to him, he just could not stay home and not stay faithful. but then i shouldve known cause hes a DJ. Waste of my 6 months! I couldnt blame him too much cause he was always in the party scene and always had groupies so its like what do you expect?? Now i know to stay away from them party scene niggas cause they see too much ass and tits every night to stay faithful to their one girl no matter how good you are to them. Do i blame the other girls for throwing themselves at him? not at all cause females gonna be females and when they see someone whose in that type of business they gonna automatically assume they got money and they poppin! and most girls go after that nowadays. I dont blame myself either cause i know i was good to him…hes just not ready and hes the type of person who has a lot of guidance issues. After leaving him and him begging me to come back, I know for sure I wasnt the problem in this relationship. Oh and i thought about cuttin all 4 of his tires too but I aint that crazy! lol
I had a girl call my house as a teen. I was sick at the time and in my mom’s bed. I was not speaking to my BF just recovering. I saw he in front of his building with a female so I was good as far as closure goes but I wanted to fade to black not the ghetto drama. She found my number and called on her own he told me. This is why he hung up the phone but I called back only because she direspected me. I blamed them both because she knew about me and he couldn’t keep it real.
In the present, I know better than to blame the female because she is not in the relationship it’s my hubby. I would say thank you for not wasting another second of my time. Life is too short for BS.